I feel like my husband is my third child.

I’ve had it. I’m so fed up with the way my life is. A little backstory- We’re in our twenties, bought a house 2 years ago and got married 2 years ago..also had our first 2 years ago. He works full time ( no more than 40-45 hours a week) and I work at a school, not making shit but still working about 36 hours a week). We have a newborn who is my everything, just like my toddler. But apparently I’m the only one who can take care of the newborn. I get that she cries and it’s hard to figure out what she wants but he just lets her sit next to him crying her eyes out, screaming until I come get her. This when I need to shower or do one of many house chores. And that’s another thing! I can’t ask him to clean ANYTHING or even pick up after himself because he always throws this in my face “well I don’t see you paying bills” or “how about that car/house I bought you”

I can never win that argument because it’s true and I don’t know how to stand up for myself.

I wake up every two hours of the night to feed the baby, then get up at 7 to my toddler wanting to start the day, get both of them dressed/change diapers/fed, then clean for a couple of hours (mostly his shit) while chasing my toddler around, entertaining her and keeping my baby happy. I THEN get to brush my teeth, and maybe make food for myself. I do this all day until its night time, I finally get the toddler a bath and she goes to sleep. I don’t have time to shower, eat or even go to the bathroom more than once a day. All while this is going on, my husband is watching tv, playing on his phone or goes down stairs to play on the Xbox. All day. Every single weekend unless we (rarely) go somewhere. And during the week it’s the same but he’s at work until 5. There is not one chore I can think of that he does. I’m exhausted, I love being a mom but idk how much more I can take. Oh and he has the nerve to try to have sex after I get one chance of a break. 🙄

What can I do? How can I make this better? I can’t be alone on this, can I?

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