Just looking for a bit of advice! I am currently 21 weeks pregnant with my first and one of my best friends has started to find it difficult seeing me pregnant. My partner and I were trying for over a year and now how lucky we are to be in this position. My friend always said that she wasn’t ready, but conceived in October and miscarried at 8 weeks. It has hit her really hard, I think harder than even she expected.

Since Feb when we found out that we had conceived, I feel like I’ve done everything I can to be sensitive but I feel like she’s just shutting down to me and getting herself stressed out every time we see each other. I genuinely think that she doesn’t know what to say to me because she’s cut up by it all but other than not being pregnant, there is nothing I can think to do! I try to cover up my bump and not talk about the baby when she’s around unless she asks and when other people ask, I tell them what they asked and then change the subject as quickly as I can. Doing this doesn’t bother me at all as I know how painful it can be watching everyone else getting pregnant, but I can only cover up for so long as bump is getting quite big now and I don’t want our relationship or HER to suffer long term from the stress of it.

Any advice would be really helpful x