3 way please help idk what to do!?

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I am a pansexual woman. my man regularly likes to ask me to have threesomes. originally he would tell me he only wants to see me with her as he sexes me. but yesterday he mentions how he wants the availability to open up his round of conversation with women so he can allow them into our bedroom on top of the availability to have sex with them as long as I'm okay with it. I have a question for the ladies out here would you be okay with it with you be bothered by him wanting to open the relationship and not form. For me it hurts more and it's harder to think about because I was under the understanding and he only wanted to allow another woman into our bed to watch me with her but he might not be content with just that. he's 21 I know he's young I understand he has these thoughts and desires and I'm 22 I'm young we both don't have to stay tied down for this to be as reality. I don't really know if I should continue in a relationship feeling like I'm holding someone back or like I'm obligated to allow this to happen so he would be satisfied and not get tired of our relationship together. I'm scared because he's been my high-school sweetheart and my first I've tried so hard to continue this relationship with him. I've been trying to regain just a little bit of confidence within myself so that I can be happier in my relationship with him but with so much on my mind now with this situation I'd rather be broken hearted then deal with allowing something I might not be really comfortable with. I'll admit sometimes when I'm home I'm think about if I'm willing to allow something like that to conspire for his sake because I know my own shortcomings and I'm constantly recognizing them within myself so I always in a way and beating myself up for myself to try to improve but I'm just over doing so much for others when they don't seem to do for me. I have no friends left and he's all I have and to let him go would be to be completely alone even though I already feel that right now it would be so much more real when we no longer are together. All I know is whatever I won't do someone might be willing to do for him and I don't really mind because I just want him to be happy but I don't want to expel my own happiness for others anymore😢

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I would say, you're fairly young still. if you think you're pansexual, you might enjoy a relationship like that when you're a older but if it makes you uncomfortable or uncertain now, just tell him how you feel. just tell him that it raises a lot of questions for you right now and you're not ready. you're not obligated to let him do all this just to keep him happy in your relationship. if you're not ready for it, he needs to respect that you need time and it may be a while. if he cares about you and still wants to see you, he will think its worth waiting for and he won't pressure you if he really wants a chance to share it with you. he may just think that since you're pansexual, you will/should be completely open to everything all at once. that's not true at all. he may just be trying to take advantage of that misconception by pressuring you into letting him do as he pleases. in that case, whether you are pansexual or not you're still better off without him. take your time together. be honest and be kind when you talk about it. if it's something he wants to share with you, it will matter to him if you're not ready yet. if he's just being an opportunistic f*ck boi, it won't matter to him and he will try to make you feel bad for being unsure.

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Try talking to him about how your feeling about all of this his response is what will matter but don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable and being alone wouldn’t be forever I’m sure a sweet girl like you can find friends ❤️

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I don’t mean sound insensitive or ignorant, I’m just wondering, what pansexual is? And how does it differ from bisexual? Forgive me.
Regarding your predicament I would wait until you are older and more secure in the relationship to bring someone else in at all. Maybe then you’ll be more confident with “sharing” 
Maybe if you bring someone in that you’re comfortable with but know you won’t ever have to see again?

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I'm pansexual too and me and my bf have discussed threesomes. we've decided we won't ever have one because we are both jealous people. I would love to fool around with a woman but it's not something he's comfortable with and I'm not comfortable with him messing around with other women. That being said, it's not an option for us in order to continue a healthy, trusting relationship. It sounds like he is pressuring you and this is not what you really want. Just from that, I can tell that if you do this, it will cause issues in your relationship and may lead to you guys breaking up. And about that last part... if he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat, no matter what you do. if you think that is a possibility, I would find someone who is a better fit for you. sorry you're going through this; I would have a serious talk with him about your concerns and discomfort. personally, I don't think it's a good idea but at the end of the day, it's your choice.

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I’ve never seen anything good come out when a couple decided to bring other partners in. Whether it’s romantically, sexually, or both. I would tell him how you feel and he should respect your choice and that should be the end of that. Don’t feel bad/guilty if it isn’t something you’re not comfortable with

3 way please help idk what to do!?

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