Okay, this will be long. Please don’t read if you don’t want to!

So I’m 21, my sister is 30. I found out about her when I was about 13, long story. (Dads biological daughter from a fling in between marriages) anyways, we’ve always had an on again off again relationship. But we’re close, I use to watch her three kids daily, would go over for bonfires or to drink. It was nice.

About four years ago she started dating this guy, call him J. J was a 30 something country guy who had never lived on his own. He lived with his mom. They dated for about three years. He cheated on her, she cheated on him, but he was a huge part of her kids lives. Until one day he leaves without telling the kids goodbye and just tells her that he doesn’t want a family. Keep in mind this was just a couple months after he had proposed to her.

Anyways, during the breakup and while she wasn’t with him, she talked with me more and even hung out with me often. Then just a couple weeks later she starts talking to this other guy. Call him E. She had known him for years because she was friends with his wife, who left him after 22 years of marriage because she was gay. He has two kids.

So E is a rich guy, he buys her everything takes her out all the time. She starts investing herself totally in him and his kids. She starts staying over there and even starts depending on him financially when she lost her job. (Maybe a month into their relationship.) also during this time, she wasn’t talking to me as much, wasn’t hanging out with me.

So then E starts getting abusive and she falls out of love fast. But she stays because her kids like him and like staying at his house. Well then she starts talking to me again, hanging out more. And then she starts hanging out with P, a dad she met through a play date of their sons.

She didn’t see him romantically, even said she didn’t think she saw that with him. But then suddenly starts spending nights at his house and bringing his kids on little dates. I told her to take it slow and she agreed, but then a month later I ask her how her move into a new temporary house is going and she says “oh that didn’t work out, I’m living with p”. Mmmmmmmtwo months into their relationship and a week after officially moving out of E’s home. Oh and since she started dating P, I’ve been on the back burner yet again.

My point is, every guy she starts seeing, it’s instant “love”. The sappy Facebook posts start the second it’s official and she invests all of her time and energy into these guys she barely takes the time to know. Posting pictures of all of their kids (7) captioning it “family” the same way she did with the guy before. Now look, I know everyone is entitled to live their life exactly how they choose. But she was supposed to start looking for a job once she left E and when I asked her about it she said she’s still staying home. I just don’t get how one guys income is supposed to support a girlfriend and 7 children. Also, as soon as she enters a relationship, everything else becomes unimportant. I’m out on the back burner, she has no time for me or our dad anymore and it pisses me off. She only has time for me while single and that lasts two days, max.

I love her but when I’ve brought up issues like this in the past she’ll get defensive and say family is a two way street, you can come visit me blah blah. Like girl sometimes I want one on one time with my sister I don’t want to go over to a strangers house and sit around with him and his four kids.

I don’t know, does anyone have any advice on how to ring up my concerns to her without sounding like a complete bitch