Confirmation story (long read)!

Oooook so! I got a positive hpt at 8dpo and I had my confirmation appointment scheduled for 13dpo...I have had a chemical with my first pregnancy so for my rainbow now I am really nervous and anxious about pretty much everything. I overthink everything and it’s annoying to me, I wish I didn’t.

Last pregnancy I never made it to the confirmation appointment, that appointment turned into confirming a miscarriage instead. So for this appointment I was very excited and nervous of course! ( I was scared they would come back with my urine test and say sorry it’s negative or something like that). The nurse came in the room and she had no emotion in her voice or in her face, she seemed annoyed from the get go like she would rather be doing something else. She came in and said “you must be very early because everyone else’s test shows two lines in under one minute and yours took about two minutes to start showing. (not fmu either if that matters). So I’m like omg am I pregnant or not?! I was expecting the nurse to come in with the results and either say I’m sorry it’s negative or congratulations you’re pregnant/it’s positive. So she proceeds to sit down to go over my file and ask me questions. She asks when my LMP and I let her know I haven’t had one since my mc in May and she looks at my file and says oh it says LMP May 15th and I’m like no...that’s when I started my mc and got it confirmed, unless you count that as a LMP. I said myLMP before mc was in April. And she argued with me about my mc. She said I’m 8 weeks along and due January 21. I said I don’t think that’s right, that’s the due date for the baby I miscarried. She said we’ll put your 8 weeks and left the room. WTF! I was not expecting to argue with a nurse or have my mc brought up like that! The dr finally comes in and says so there was some confusion on you LMP...? And I told her my point of view. I said I had a mc in May my last known period was in April. If we were to count the mc as a LMP it would put me at 4 weeks that day. I told her I wasn’t completely sure and just kind of doing my own calculations. So she put down 4 weeks. I told her I have some questions and told her how nervous and anxious I had been due to the previous mc. She said quit reading online. I said I wasn’t have much if any symptoms and if I should be having at least one consistent one. She laughed and said to my husband “ remind her this when she’s ACTUALLY pregnant” WTF?! Actually pregnant...........

I still have questions I wanted to ask and she was completely uninterested.

The nurse kept telling me how it’s common to get false positives and how most everyone waits until they’re 8 weeks for when they come in to confirm their pregnancy.

I was really feeling down and feeling like I did something wrong coming in to confirm my pregnancy after receiving a positive hpt. I thought that’s what you were supposed to do.

To top it off when they took blood the tech wouldn’t let my husband back with me and the nurse wouldn’t let me see my urine test. It was sitting on the counter and when I got up I looked at it and she said, it’s been sitting so long now!

They called me today with hcg levels and they said it was 47. All they said is they want me to come back for another draw, they didn’t say if that was good, bad, neutral...nothing.

They also want to see me for a trans vaginal ultrasound at my 6 week 1 day mark.

Isn’t that too early to see anything and isn’t the heart not beating at that time yet..?

Thank you for reading my long story, I just feel odd on how I was treated and people were acting. I’m a FTM so I feel very alone in this, especially without dr support in a way.