The last time I had sex with my husband was in June last year , so it’s been one year now since we had sex. He travels for work so maybe that explains why? I became pregnant in July 2017 (baby #2) and had the baby 2 months ago. My husband went out last night and I was just feeling this instinct to go searching his closet , sure thing I found a bottle of herpes medication, then I was like why is this medication in his closet instead of the medication cabinet downstairs. I knew there had to be more information somewhere so I kept on with my search only for me to find a copy of his recent lab results. He tested negative for all STDs but positive for herpes type 2 antibodies. I immediately called him to come back home cuz I was boiling , he told me that he was going to break the news to me but didn’t want to stress me out since I was pregnant. I asked him if he had been cheating because there’s no reason for him to be doing std screening if we are not having sex and he’s not having an affair. He denied it all and said the doctor told him that he may have been exposed to herpes type 2 a long time ago but he just never knew it and never tested for it. He denied any recent outbreak. I went to my doctor who refused to do the test (IGg) my husband did as the doctor said it’s not relevant, that the IGm test is what I need as it shows recent exposure. Igg test only tells you if you have ever been exposed to Herpes type 2. My doctor said most people test positive for Herpes IGg test but have no symptoms for a long time. I am so CONFUSED right now. I am going to see a counselor next week because I need serious help. My husband denied any cheating , refused to let me see his phone and is not remorseful at all. My marriage is about to be history if you ask me. We just bought a home together (last month) and have a new born and 10 year old son. It hurts to even think that am going to do this to my kids but it’s my husband’s fault.

My husband has been hammering on me to lose weight for years and when I finally decide to do it (for me, not him) now am faced with something like this. I haven’t spoken to my mother or father in law yet , they will be heart broken if I leave but I gotta take care of me.

Please let me hear what anyone has to say. I need help figuring this out.

Sorry for the long post