Is it bad that I want a baby?

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I’m 15 years old and Ik I shouldn’t but I really want a baby. My parents got pregnant young and I know how hard it was for them and I thought that would put me off. But I still really do. I’m not going to have a baby yet as I know that my parents would kill me (and so would my boyfriend 😂) but it doesn’t stop me from wanting one. I use to tell my boyfriend how much I wanted one and he just laughed but then he realised it was serious. Thing is tho. I’m still a virgin. Anyways. He tried talking me out of it and I told him I’m over it but I’m not. Does anoyone have any suggestions on how to stop?

This is me and my boyfriend btw 😘😊

Accepted Answer

Babysit someone’s baby for a week, I promise your mind will change.

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Get a kitten. Baby sit. Nanny. Do whatever you go to do. Just do not have a baby on purpose at the age of 15. I've been with my SO since I was 13. Whenever people asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I had to lie. I couldn't tell them I wanted to be a mom. They'd treat me like a whore. Honestly, it happened. We're now 23. We had our first at 22 and our second is due in August. 
Wait. There's a time for everything. Right now is the time to enjoy being a teenager and graduate high school. 
Not spend 9 months getting made fun of and being called every slut-like word from people you thought were friends. Not spending night after night crying while trying to get your baby to just go tf to sleep. Not learning calculus while trying to teach your baby to walk. 
Now is not the time.

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I took this screenshot awhile ago, knew it would be useful 😊

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You are not ready for a baby. XD If you have a kid, you lose a social life. I didn’t realize it until now (I’m 30 weeks pregnant) and all of my friends have left us. And you really gotta be in a strong relationship with your man. My husband and I have been married for a year, and we’ve argued pretty much 75% of the pregnancy.
I recommend trying to watch a friend’s kid or babysit someone’s child for an extended period of time. It’s a good reality check on motherhood.

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Babysit the whole week day and night.

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Ive wanted a baby for as long as I can remember ... then life makes u grow up and see that before having a child u need so much ... for example u need to provide for your child so u need to have finished school get a steady job and be able to afford for house and life ... if you still have your boyfriend you need to both be on the same page regarding family. I can tell you that after my baby fever I started my job at 19 and moved alone by the time I was 21 got married at 23 and had my first child at 29. Don’t regret a single decision taken ... we are all different and u may not need all the security I’ve just mentioned but you need some. Maybe knowing how hard it’s to be a parent (I love it btw) will make you change your mind. I do agree that doing some babysitting may change your mind. You can always try to become a kindergarten teacher that way you will be in touch with them in daily basis and might help u.

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Think logically. Your young and can not properly provide for your child. You should at least graduate school and get some sort of job and save up. Look at how expensive things baby will need are and the chances of a boy your age sticking around to help you raise a child are rather slim. Not only that but your body is still changing in a lot of ways and so you might have complications such as needing a c section due to your hips being too small or that will cause baby to come too soon.I would babysit and look logically on all the things babies require and need. Having a newborn will make it harder to finish school as babies wake up for feedings every 2 hours or so. You can't expect your parents to watch baby while your in class and daycare isn't cheap. You would most likely need to switch to homeschooling. Not many girls your age will want to be around a crying baby and you might find you loose all your friends. I'm not telling you anything I would not tell my 16 year old stepdaughter. Wait and be prepared before you go down this road because once you do it changes your life forever.

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I was the same way. Babysitting didn't help, it actually made it worse haha. You were just meant to be a mama! Life doesn't go as planned. I got pregnant at 21, and he died during birth. I got pregnant 8 months later and I've been a single mom since he was a year and 2 months. In and out of court with his father. It's not glamorous. I love my son to the moon and back but parenting is hard. Being a single parent? It's harder to meet people..friends and men alike. It can be lonely. It's expensive. It's hard to work, be a single mom, take care of the house and be a mom. Enjoy your youth to the fullest. The beauty of parenthood will come later.

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This ladies comment on here really had me like damn.. and to think that she would've possibly had to pay it all if it wasnt for tricare😅

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Wait until you’re 16 and see if you can work in a daycare that may help you realize that this isn’t something you’ll want right now. Plus you can always go look through the baby aisle see how much things would cost and that will probably put you off too.

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