How do I stop being a weak bitch?

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My ex and I had quite the volatile relationship. In the beginning he’d put down my physical appearance; unfortunately instead of leaving, I became insecure. 
He had a million female “best friends” (that he had previously slept with) and ex girlfriends that he was in constant contact; unfortunately instead of leaving, I became jealous.
Then came the emotional and verbal abuse; instead of leaving, I became broken down.
I think I fell in love with his potential. He had a kind heart for the homeless and kids. A helpful spirit (to everyone but me for the most part). The most beautiful brown eyes & smile.
Near the end when he’d, or other people, asked me what the hell I saw in him (he’s older, broke, overweight & ill health) I couldn’t name one thing, I was so done.
I still am so done, but my god do I miss him. I don’t even like him 99% of the time. I can’t go back, things won’t change and every single woman he’s been with has gone back to him, that’s why he thinks his behavior is ok. But it’s not it’s abusive.
How do I stop being such a weak bitch and get over this guy?

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First you need to stop referring to yourself as a weak bitch

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You don’t still love him. You just love the idea of what could have been. But he was incapable of ever really giving you that life anyways. Victims of abuse often have unhealthy attachment to their abuser. They have been mentally and emotionally torn down for so long they don’t have clear eyes. Also, referring to yourself as a bitch is only perpetuating the cycle of violence. You left and that makes it impossible for you to be weak!

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Sounds like you will miss him only because he was familiar. Just move on and embrace the new, simple and to the point.

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You can't change people.  It will be hard, but time and distance will help.

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never reply to him again & cut all ties

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You need to realize you don't love him, you love what you thought he was and what you wish he could be thats why you stayed. 
You're not weak for seeing light even in the darkness.

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First of all, stop putting yourself down like he would have! You’re not a week bitch! I’d say you’re pretty strong for putting up with that crap for so long. But the problem is when you put up with stuff like that, it does affect your self-esteem. So that’s what you need to be working on. And the first thing you need to do to start working on that today is be kind to yourself. You have feelings that matter and it’s OK to feel them. You were attached to someone, it’s OK to feel grief from breaking that attachment. You did the right thing. If you are in love with the potential of a person, you are not actually loving a person that exists. Potential is something that could exist, not something that does. I think if you were to see a therapist, you could really work through all of this and be much healthier because of it. Use situations like this to grow, not to beat yourself down some more. Other people do that enough for us, we don’t need to do it to ourselves too.

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It’s going to be really hard I went through the same thing and when it ended I thought I’d never get over it and always want him but now I can see it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me and now I’m engaged to the man of my dreams he’s so loving and caring, just do things to make yourself feel good, go for a night out, get your nails done try and feel yourself! And think he’s so not worth it, you will find someone a hell of a lot better, just because he’s familiar doesn’t mean he’s what you need, time will help x

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cold turkey dear. have self discipline and respect for yourself or you'll only get what go after, and to me that unhappiness is not what you're created for.

How do I stop being a weak bitch?

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