Am I over reacting???

So last night my bf tells me he wants head I used to do it almost everyday but it gets so routine I stopped initiating, and I told him If I do that I still want sex he doesnt see it as foreplay because he cums I guess? Well he got his head & guess what ! Didnt have sex?! Its not that im pissed I didnt get laid Im upset because I FEEL USED! if I would of told him the same i know i wpuld follow threw so he says after work , again no time in the morning ?? Didnt push him on why but he had time to scroll threw apps...so now here it is 4am im pissed & Feeling USED & STUPID! It feel ONE SIDED! When he got off work he said he wanted it again but he wont finish & we can have sex BIG SHOCKER HE LIED! now hes TOO FUCKIN TIRED! & you know why?! Becaise I turned him down for his offer of “we can have sex if I get head” I said no! So what do I get a COLD SHOULDER! Why is he being like this!!! Are guys seriously that SELFISH! He knows I was used by a guy & I told him before that its fear of being used and im coming from a hurt place so hes alseep now and probably thinks Im pissed I didnt get dick! But what Im pissed about is FEELING USED wtf do i do! Has your guy ever been so selfish in bed?!