My mom said my vagina wasn’t normal — UPDATE #4 — More pictures added!!

I remember from a young age that I’ve always always ALWAYS been self conscious about how my vagina looked. My mom saw my hooha when I was going through puberty (10-11) and told me I wasn’t normal down there and a real woman’s looked different because I had long labia. At one point I even thought about cutting them off myself.

She wasn’t saying it to be mean, she just honestly never knew women could have different vaginas, but what she said to me stayed with me to this day and I’m 22.

When I first got with my boyfriend at 17, I was so self conscious and nervous to do anything with him out of fear he would think I was a freak down there. I remember the first time I let him finger me I was thinking my heart was going to beat out of my chest because of the nerves. I kept looking at his face to see if he would make a look of disgust or anything once he realized I wasn’t “normal”. He didnt. He has never made me feel insecure about my body ever. Never said a thing about it.

Even a few weeks ago I looked up labiaplasty. I looked up other posts about other women/girls dealing with long labias and self consciousness about their bodies on here. I read a post that said to look up the Great Wall of Vaginas sculpture to show how different all vaginas are. It made me relax a little. Maybe I wasn’t so gross or different after all. I started doing more research and saw a poll that said about 80% of women have “outies” and the other percentage either had labiaplasty or were just lucky. Apparently even some porn stars who have the “perfect” vagina have had labiaplasty (not all).

I was even scared at the thought of going into labor when I eventually become pregnant and having the doctors look at me and think I was gross. I was scared that if I had my mom in the room she’d look at me and think I was gross. I was so scared of being judged for having an Arby sandwich vagina (kidding about the description). They’ve surely seen worse because they look at so many different women every day. And they are NORMAL. All of them. All kinds, shapes, sizes, colors, long labias, lackthereof, etc.

My point is, don’t live your life being so scared and self conscious that you worry about it all the time. YOU ARE NORMAL! Your vagina is normal! Outies are normal, super long labia are normal, not having long labia is normal. YOU ARE NORMAL AND YOUR BODY IS BEAUTIFUL!

And if you ever want to make yourself feel better, google long labias. Trust me, yours isn’t bad. I never realized that mine weren’t bad at all. I was just pushed into believing that I had an ugly hooha by society! I am so mad that I spent so much time worrying and crying about how ugly I was down there and I’m not even that bad!

Be proud of your hoohas ladies! Unleash those bad boys!

**Feel free to share if you’ve had similar experiences/feelings! We’ve all been there!

Update— I just wanted to say I’m happy with the responses I’m getting! It’s nice knowing that people relate to how you feel, even if it’s not always good. It shows you aren’t alone!

I am by no means where I want to be with loving myself completely down there, but googling things has made me feel SO MUCH better!

Thank you all for your kind words, thoughts, excerpts into your own lives, etc. It means a lot to me to read all of these! 💕

*flaps away*

Update #2- So I’ve been getting a lot of questions about why my mom happened to see my vagina when I was young. It wasn’t weird or like it was abuse or anything. I’ve heard multiple stories from other women who have had someone see their lady parts at one point or another.

I’m kind of annoyed that people immediately jump to abuse. I honestly can’t remember how she saw it, I do remember we were both in the bathroom, I was in a tub (nothing weird) and the parts obviously stick out and she saw them. All she said (and she wasn’t trying to be mean) was that my parts didn’t look normal (and from this post apparently a lot of other women didn’t know that women could have different looking vulvas or whatever).

So that’s the story, it wasn’t an occurring thing and she never asked about it again. It definitely wasn’t sexual abuse or any other form.

On another note, it’s so fascinating how many women didn’t know that vulvas/labias/vaginas/etc could look different. I wish this would be taught in sex ed to show girls that we’re all normal! I know I wish I was taught that so I didn’t spend so much time worrying and hating my downstairs.

Anyway, keep your stories/advice/what have you coming! I love reading them!

Update #3- I just wanted to say that the “perfect” porn star-looking vaginas are okay to have, too. I also want to say that I never said all porn stars have had labiaplasty, I just saw some polls and videos explaining that a lot have had it done because the majority of women have longer labia - including most porn stars. That’s not to say that you yourself (if you have that type of vulva) have had labiaplasty, you’re just extremely lucky and I’m so jealous of you women haha.

I apologize if it came across as if I was saying the “perfect” porn star vagina wasn’t normal. We’re all normal.

To you ladies that have them, that’s awesome! You guys are very lucky!

👍🏼

Update #4- Just wanted to add more photos from the sculptor Jamie McCartney. There are 10 sculptures from him from his “Great Wall of Vagina” collection. (Click on the second to last picture to enlarge).

I know many of you have said that you couldn’t find yours and wanted to see if yours was on there, so I’m adding more pictures above!

Not everyone’s looks the same, so it might be hard to see one exactly like your own (even my own wasn’t up there lol), just similar looking ones or ones in between!

Anyway, have fun comparing lol