Is this wrong for me to do?

Is it wrong for me to compare my relationship with others? Now before you jump down my throat, hear me out.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We have an 8 month old. We live together. What I’ve noticed is that he never compliments me, he never will say I love you in front of other people. He only is affectionate with me when he wants something. He never holds my hand. I can’t kiss him without him touching my vagina, whether it be a joke or him actually wanting something. I always see how these guys treat their girlfriends and he’s never treated me like that. I think he’s held my hand once in public and that was when we first starting dating. He says that I need to stop comparing our relationship with others and on some level I agree with him. But the thing is that I’ve talked to him countless times, telling him that I don’t feel appreciated and I wish he acted like he wants me more. He always ignores me. Always. So now I’ve gotten to the point where I need to point out other relationships so maybe he gets the hint. I have no idea what to do anymore.