So me and my boyfriend have access to each other’s social media because we trust each other.

I’ve noticed him and one of his coworkers texting back and forth about work in their part time job and while me and him were on a call, I told him “You and her are talking a lot” because I kept getting notifications.

Instantly he went off on me and kept saying that I talk to a lot of people when I don’t anymore and was super defensive and rash. I got upset that he reacted so rashly.

He then said that I always need reassurance over everything and that it pushes him away. Times like this make me wonder if I should really be with him. Can I be with someone who can’t give me the reassurance I need, even when it gets repetitive at times? I have anxiety and I need it a lot, but he just can’t give me the amount I need.

He’s great but I don’t know if he’s the right person for me. If he really loved me, wouldn’t he try to reassure me and make me feel comfortable? I feel like he does not love me when he gets like this, like he can’t just let go of his frustration and give me reassurance. I always hear other people talk about how their significant other gives them plenty of reassurance. I guess I lucked out.