Hello CC family... I need advice from various lifestyles and I -hope- this doesn’t turn into a shit show or anything off topic and disgusting.

A lot of you know the chaos in my life right now with my ex cheating on me with our stalker. She’s now faking evidence for him against me, but they already know she did it, they’re just waiting for her to try to submit it to a judge as truth 😎

He is also facing charges for threatening to shoot up the court house and “kill every cop in there”.

His sister in another state was the one that reported him, and this is where I have a conflict of what should I say about this situation in court.

This case is obviously going to be sensationalized. This has never happened in our small town, much less 3 days after the biggest school shooting in the country... as well as my ex’s “fame” and how he’s apparently hated by the people from Ink Master and has been “banned from D.C” despite pleading we move up there together.

She is going to be brought in to testify, as am I.

I have texts from him flat out admitting he threatened her to take back her turning him in for saying he was going to shoot up the courthouse..... because, “she doesn’t disclose to the people she prostitutes herself to that she’s actually transgendered”.

Of course, in his fashion, the first version of this was “dates”, and now she’s a prostitute, and apparently their mom is having mental breakdowns over it, etc.

I don’t want to expose or out her without consent .... but what he said to her is basically a death threat without it flat out being a death threat, due to the complexities behind being transgendered in society.... annnnnnd this is exactly how he’s abused me, and the dumb stalker girl has continued his abuse for him with pressing fake charges, finding photos of me from 2012 SOMEHOW to make fun of, posting my address online repeatedly, using the petsmart customer database to stalk me, and so on and so on.

Some people are making me feel guilty about my plans of not holding back that I have evidence of him saying he threatened to expose her, “because essentially you’re also exposing her”....

but in this situation, is it really?

I want to be respectful but I think in a case like this where there is SUCH a history of abuse and threats to many people, it needs to be openly said. The district attorneys that want to get a guilty conviction are younger and can explain to a judge WHY exposing her as transgendered as a threat is dangerous and needs to be taken seriously as any other threat to anyone else to recant them turning him in.... so that’s a plus.

I need opinions because of course I was going to be respectful of her regardless, but WOULD I be exposing her, too? I never thought of it in that way because, in the most respectful way possible, the details to get him a guilty conviction are more important than holding back what is a huge piece of this story if she goes along with saying she “didn’t mean it” because she’s afraid of him. And it could possibly lead to more charges like another threat charge, intimidating a witness and so on.

My mind is also still in abuse mode, too... I panic about “what if they don’t believe me” when I KNOW they’re all very protective of that court house and hate him as well as the stalker girl saying she’s his pregnant fiancé now. They KNOW and have even said WE were a “special case” because of the variable of his drug abuse and mental illness, and I was the only reason they were going to be lenient with him, but not anymore... but his threats and manipulation and abuse still have my mind set to self-doubt, and now being told “you’re not better than he is if you testify and say he threatened to out her because you’re then outing her” hurts my confidence a little.

I’m also just “off” about all of this too... today would have been our 1 year anniversary... and when I look at him my mind registers him as a stranger, and it’s a terrifying feeling.

help me out, but stay respectful of all walks of life in your thoughts please