am i being selfish?

Question

so last night for the first time in 3 years i cried when my boyfriend and i were having sex. it wasn't because i was in physical pain but emotional. i am yurning for a baby and i am trying so hard to be patient because he's not ready to have a baby right now and i am. i do love this man but the feeling of wanting a baby is strong. i cried because he asked for a condom. i feel so bad because once he put the condom on i just laid there and faked enjoying it while crying. it was consentual sex before anyone says anything. i'm just hurting emotionally and want to know if i am selfish for feeling this way??? any advice??

Answer

I don’t think you’re selfish. it’s normal to want a baby. I just think you have to respect that he’s not ready, and not make him feel bad for that. there are girls who pressure their partner into having a baby or do it without their knowledge (like lying about birth control) and it ends badly. it will be so much better when he’s ready. you’re not selfish but you have to be understanding

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Talk about a mood kill??! Lol. Um, okay so prior to me being pregnant now with our second baby. Me & my boyfriend was arguing about when was the right time for us to have another baby. I was ready since last summer but he kept pushing it back to December of last year. It got so bad that I had to hit him with an ultimatum that if I wasn't pregnant by last September with our second baby then there was going to be no more sex or kinky sex for him. Plus I wanted to start making plans to do more traveling/starting my diet regimen which we all know once you get pregnant the diet thing kinda goes out the window. So we had to have a long sit down talk to discuss the "pregnancy plan" and it eventually worked out good for the both of us. As for the condom wearing with my SO during sex and sobbing that to me would just take me out the mood altogether. I get why some people do it but I been 10 years in my relationship so the condom was going to come off eventually. Lol. But food for thought make sure that is THE person you want to have babies with and/or marry.

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can you two agree on a timeline for a baby ? because if you cannot , I don't think the advice others are giving where you wait for him , is going to help much . you may need to leave him and move on. find someone else who does want a family as much as you do.

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When I was at my lowest point and most desperate for a baby I had a similar thing with my husband. I didn't actually cry when he asked me to get a condom but I certainly felt like it and I didn't enjoy the sex as much, I still enjoyed it once I was in the moment but I had to work hard to get there. Try to be patient though, I know how difficult that is, we now have a beautiful 6 month old baby boy and he was more than worth the wait. Your time will come

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