Why do I feel so guilty?!

Question

So I’m 15 and I lost my virginity a few weeks ago before my birthday to the boy I love. We’ve been dating for a while now, almost five months. And he’s so so so good to me. He’s such a gentleman and I know that I made the right choice. Part of me wishes I waited but part of me also is happy we took that step. But now I feel guilty about it, my mom found out a few days after and she was upset but I wrote her a letter and she seemed to get over it. Yesterday I ordered condoms on amazon because you know, better safe than sorry. But I’m worried my mom will see the package and question it. For some reason I feel guilty about that and I don’t know why, because if you’re going to do it you should at least be responsible. And I am. But I seem to go through phases of guilt and happiness over the subject. Is this bad?

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If you’re feeling guilty about having sex then a part of you was not ready. I would take it slow. And just because you had sex once doesn’t mean you have to continue.

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You should talk to your mom to get on birth control since condoms have the ability to break. Personally I don’t condone people having sex that young but if you’re safe about it and consent then I guess you shouldn’t feel guilty since you can’t go back and change the past

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Better safe than sorry is absolutely the way to go. Def talk to your mom about getting on birth-control. Also, if you haven't already, find a gyno. It's recommended to start seeing a gyno once becoming sexually active or at 18. I think your guilt comes from the part of you wishing you had waited.. Perhaps you were not as ready as you thought. Maybe your Moms response makes you feel like it was wrong. Either way, talk to her.

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I’d say you feel guilty since you might feel you did something wrong? I’m sure you’re bombarded with the whole don’t have sexy, you’re too young. Idk if that’s true but being told that can make you subconsciously feel like they’re right and you did do something you shouldn’t.
I wouldn’t say you weren’t  ready but maybe it’s more so that what you feel and what others are telling you are conflicting. I think you should just remind yourself how you feel or felt at the time you decided to have sex, remind yourself that you are trying to be safe and responsible, and continue to be careful and mindful. Maybe that’ll help you realize that you shouldn’t feel so guilty?

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I lost my virginity at 14 (23 now)and wouldn't change a thing. Just be smart and safe. Birth control can be hard on the body, I would recomend talking to your doctor about a backup method, there are so many to chose from! Using  two or three methods when you're not ready for a baby is super important.

Why do I feel so guilty?!

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