Getting used to sex?

Question

I’ve sort of had sex a few times (3) but it was only like 5 minute quickies and I never came. It hurts really bad whenever any guy puts it in me. My hymen broke on the first time and I also don’t finger myself or let other guys finger me. Is it normal for sex to hurt like that? And will it always be like that or will I loosen up? Also, what are some ways to get used to it so it doesn’t hurt? Also, I don’t know if age has anything to do with vaginal tolerance/development/width/stretch, but I’m 15.

Answer

It would say it hurts because you’re not aroused enough. While guys can be ready to go straight away, science says girls take at least 20 mins of heavy kissing/foreplay etc to get the blood pumping in that area and get aroused. Also, a lot of men a lot older than you don’t know what they’re doing so I don’t have a lot of hope for teenage boys haha. 
Also I’d really like to say that you should realise that the “orgasm gap” is a load of crap. You obviously want to have sex with these boys and that’s all good but you need to tell them how it feels for you and don’t be afraid of hurting their feelings. Make a deal with yourself never to fake it or to say you came if you didn’t and don’t settle for bad sex!! Tell them what feels good and what doesn’t, though that will probably take you time practising alone to figure out. Aim for the stars, aim for multiple orgasms lol
I love the podcast Sex with Emily for ideas and some good feminist sex talk. Sex positivity ftw! 💕
On a personal note I had a problem with painful sex in a relationship a few years ago, and then a lack of desire because I grew to dread it, and in hindsight I think I just stopped being attracted to that person and I met someone else I while later and things couldn’t be more different ☺️
(Don’t know if that really answers your question but the good sex rant is what I would want to say to younger me haha)

Answer

It shouldn’t hurt after the first few times. At all. First, definitely try to have a longer session. Demand more from these men. If you’re aroused and it still ends up hurting, that could be endometriosis or another medical condition that you should see and doctor for.

Answer

Yeah it’s gonna hurt at first but as you keep going longer it feels good, just let yourself loose, also if your wet it should really feel good soo that might be the problem or your not going long enough sus

Getting used to sex?

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