Ruining him 😒

So a few years ago, my friend told me her ex was only going to date her again if she took off her clothes on skype for him. She asked me to record their conversation to “have proof”. I was just like

Why not just say no? Anyway, she went through the process with me on the other line recording the entire thing, as after he left, she kept saying how embarrassed and horrified she was that he put her through that. Like, you consented??? She literally could have said no, and blocked him on everything. She cried sexual abuse 😒 I ended up deleting the recording entirely because it was fake bullshit, and I wasn’t going to let her plaster it all over posing him as the bad guy. Yes, he was in the wrong for saying he’d only date her if she took her clothes off, but he didn’t do ANYTHING besides that.

Now fast forward a few years later, he’s my best friend. We’re in his room hanging out, I’m teasing him with getting close to his face cause flirting, when he pushes me down onto the bed, holds me down, and starts touching/kissing me all over my chest, neck, and body. I was SO uncomfortable and I couldn’t speak because I was in shock. After he was “done” and stood me up, I fell over because I was holding my breath, and I was light headed (he though that was hot). THAT was SEXUAL ABUSE. I didn’t consent, I didn’t say yes, and I DIDN’T WANT IT. Yes, I was teasing him and getting close to his face, but I NEVER wanted him to start touching and kissing me all over my body. I didn’t want ANYTHING SEXUAL. It was harmless flirting, and he took it as “she wants me”.