Am I wrong?

My SO said something to me today that I totally could not agree with. We’ve been together a long time, but just recently within the last couple years have started keeping his 2 children over the summer and weekends, and I don’t really have a huge bond with them; I’ve never been comfortable acting as a parent when I don’t agree with a lot of things he lets them do.

I’m very vocal about this when it comes to our new child - I’m six months pregnant with my first baby and of course my connection with my own baby is going to be different.

So, he tells me “don’t play favorites.” Though in theory, I can see where he is coming from, I just don’t see how that is going to be possible. To have this baby growing inside me, feeling her everyday and craving to meet her, giving birth and raising her; seeing myself in her. How can I not treat my baby differently?

Is it wrong? To pay more attention to my own child and her behaviors than of his? To spend more energy molding my child? 😓

Makes me feel like a terrible person when I write it down, but it’s truly how I feel. Any advice or thoughts are appreciated.

***Update: Thanks for the comments and advice, it really gave me something to think about. His children are already 9 and 10 years old, so there will be quite an age gap, and they should understand the baby’s needs are gonna be a lot more. Really I just make sure his children are fed - that’s the role I have now. That’s a task in its own, because, as a lot of kids are, they don’t eat a lot of things. I’m not used to kids having so much say in things like that; not eating their vegetables (in my household you did not leave the table until you did), refusing the swimming lessons they were signed up for (when I feel like swimming is an important skill to learn, especially at their age, and even if they don’t WANT to go, they should go anyway). So it’s not like I don’t want to treat them like my own, it’s just a hard adjustment because they are not mine and I can’t expect to raise them the way I would want when they have a mother (that I, nor their father want to create problems with). Definitely an adjustment but I will talk with my SO so he can understand my dilemma, and maybe he will see my POV and offer solutions.