Baby names

My husband and I have had baby names picked out since before we got married (is that weird? Lol). We have tweaked the second boy and girl names a bit, and changed the first boy’s middle name to something new. All of our names are of those family members we’ve lost but want to remember. I’m in my 10th week and we have decided that if we are going to tell people our choice baby names, that we will wait till after my first trimester. We will also wait to tell the “world” i.e. non-relatives and bffs, that we are having a baby till the date of the beginning of tri-2 (Aug.5).

My mother-in-law texted my husband and I this afternoon a couple of boy baby names. I didn’t really like either of them, but didn’t say that, just replied with a “we’ve already picked out 2 boy and 2 girl names, but maybe.” To which she said she thought our names were “tester names” and didn’t know they were definite. I don’t know why, but this little fire in me is like, excuse me, but you had your kids and it’s now my turn to name my children. I know she’s trying to help, but I feel so defensive about the names that we picked out already and love sooo much!

Does anyone else feel like this?