mixed race

so im mixed my mother is white and my father all my life my my family has always made smart remarks about my race my black grandmother will say things like "you act like a white girl" "you dress like a white girl" my aunt will say things like "you're half monkey" "you will never understand how being black is" when she actually has a mixed child herself i don't know if she has any personal problems and she's taking them out on me but it really bothers me she acts as if I made myself this way 😞