This is my husband and I last resort ..... a little back round I’ve been married before and the guy I was previously married to absolutely destroyed me mentally and physically we both loved each other way to much and obsessed over each other it was so toxic I ended up leaving and down the road I got in touch with my current husband and we got married pretty quickly (he’s in the military) so to live together we’d have to be married financially it made since to be married . I wasn’t like crazy in love with him it wasn’t like love at first site but I did love him , I just think after my last marriage I never want to allow my self to fall for someone so crazy and hard again. So anyway I’ve had a lot of doubts about me and my current husband from the beginning I wish we would have waited to get married , as soon as I moved across the USA to the duty station he’s at he deployed for 7 months ... he got back in April and every since we’ve been doing awful. We bicker about everything we don’t agree on a lot .. he use to be so nice to me like showing me attention and affection now when we fight the only thing he uses against me is saying I “expect to much “ from him after work but when I ask him how he can’t give me an answer . It would be nice to get a hug and kiss. We haven’t even been married a year and our marriage is already like this . I come last in his eyes . Me and his sister got into it because she tried getting him with her friend when we were together and he never confronted his sister about how wrong that was and I had all my stuff packed up ready to leave and he was telling me that he’s not gonna pick me over his family basically so I got in my car then he calls me crying saying he’d do anything if I just come back . So I came back because I don’t want to drive 37 hours home . I just sometimes feel like I’m missing out on Someone who I could have a great life with by staying but idk , my husband has good quality’s about him he never cussed at me , or calls me names or hits me , he financially is smart but he’s very bland . And I’m the opposite I’m outgoing and like to have fun .... at this point I’m just staying because of the convince and I don’t feel bad saying that because I’ve sat down and told him what I need from him and he just can’t do it or isn’t listening . But anyway I guess we are going to try marriage counseling but I just don’t see how it’s going to work or help....