Hey yall, i was recently invited to a couple’s wedding. It is at a vineyard in the afternoon until around seven. In the invitation she stated that the attire is “black tie optional”.

Now i know for women it is virtually the same as “black tie” (long formal dresses in colors that dont stand out too much). But we live in a very country/rural area and i feel like our take on “black tie optional” will be a little toned down. But i dont know her family and his family is from a more urban setting (a coastal touristy city).

Sooo what do i do??? I dont want to show up looking like a bridesmaid! But i also dont want to be underdressed. Should i go formal or less formal? Or do yall know of a good happy medium?

Does anyone have any good suggestions?

Update: I talked to my friend who is also going and she says she expects it to be a step below prom. Please leave a comment or a picture if you have an idea of what i should wear! I will post pictures in a month after the wedding!!