Why these shit hurt as hell

Losing your virginity was hurt like you were in hell than having period cramps. And yeah I did use lube and I tried to relaxing and open my pussy up and we did foreplay to make me clam BUT THAT SHIT DIDNT WORK IM STILL SCARED OF GETTING MY PUSSY HURT 🙄 and ofc I feel ready but I couldn’t get over my fear of hurting my pussy like how do u guys get over with hurting your pussy? I only popped my cherry on of head of dick he didn’t go all the way inside of my pussy we stopped only head of his dick bc im hurting and bled a lot so I only lost half of my virginity :((