Am I wrong for feeling this way? :(

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First time mom, 31 weeks on Sat & I haven’t had the easiest pregnancy. The past few weeks I have this terrible ripping pain at my ribs- they tell me it’s “normal” & likely costochondritis which is terrible inflammation. Tylenol does nothing for me. The worst part is I just hate feeling this way.. I want to be able to enjoy my pregnancy. Instead I just complain & hurt & am ready to have him. I miss work bc of it & I’m sure they all think I’m being a baby bc I know they are tired of me complaining. It’s just hard. My mom & sister had “easy” pregnancies with no pains really. No one really understands & I just feel terrible about it. I just want relief & to feel like I’m not being “weak”

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I think people always look back and go 'oh, I had an easy pregnancy', but in reality they struggled to! I'm 28w 3d and I feel you, I moan a lot. Pregnancy is an uncomfortable thing.

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I have a chronic pain disease and my pregnancy has been rough. Some days it hurts so bad I can't get out of bed. You have every right to complain as much as you want and screw anyone who holds that against you. You shouldn't have to hide your pain just because some people refuse to be sympathetic. I used to hide mine and honestly all it did was cause me to have severe depression because I bottled it all up. I'm not saying only speak negatively all the time but if your ribs hurt and you dont want to do anything because of it, then tell whoever wants you to do something that you're in pain and you're not going to. Epsom salt baths help with my pain and swelling plus its relaxing to take a bath just in general. Also i use a hot pack for short times when I need a deeper relief. You can also try a chiropractor or masseuse to help relieve at least some pain or pressure. Good luck mama!!!

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You’re not wrong. I had a horrible pregnancy, I was sick so much I literally started losing my hair, had to be medicated. I had really bad back pain & I ended up being diagnosed with ulcerative colitis right after having him which is why I was sick & in so much pain but they kept telling me “it’s the pregnancy”. I went almost 2 weeks late so I was super done by the end & when I finally had him it took 3 days. Honestly tho I found the more I complained the worse I felt, it’s so tough, but you are on the home stretch, you’ll be done soon! Hang in there!

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You are not weak the pain is whatever it is. You have no control over how much it hurts you. Try to be kind to yourself about this even if the world isn't being kind to you.
I am a nurse
I do not think you are being weak or a baby
I think you are in legitimate pain.
And being in pain is Really Hard

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You're not at all wrong for feeling the way you do. However, complaining all the time is annoying and doesn't help you feel any better. I personally tried to avoid complaining.  I have scoliosis and sciatica even when not pregnant so when I'm pregnant I'm pretty much in constant pain, but complaining just alienates others and doesn't help my back feel better.

Am I wrong for feeling this way? :(

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