How do I tell him what I want?

Sooooo usually when me and my bf have sex he never kisses me and I really want him to take control and pin my hands down maybe try some different stuff like getting whipped cream and hand cuffs🤷🏼‍♀️ and do that kind of stuff, like have him take control. Do i just tell him what I want him to do/try or do I not say anything?