Talking about BDSM with my therapist?

Question

I really wish I could talk about my BDSM relationship with my therapist. It's really hard to explain my D/s dynamic with out it sounding abusive so I end up not talking about my relationship at all. How do you explain to a therapist your relationship? It's such a big part of my life, we are 24/7 so I'm basically lying about part of my life in my therapy.

Edit: I don't go to therapy FOR my relationship, I just think its such a huge part of my life, I want to be able to talk about it.

Answer

Just bring it up and mention it’s your choice and consensual! Therapists are usually nonjudgmental. Their job is to help you. If it’s something you feel you’ve been hiding because you’re scared of judgement or something else tell them that! It can open up the conversation and you can tell them if you feel they aren’t understanding.

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I have a sex positive therapist, I interviewed 8 therapists before I found her.

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I’m afraid of being told I’m ruining my life by being in this, too. My therapist is great, though; I’m not sure he actually would, but it’s scary. But my relationship isn’t something I need therapy about, so it’s not a big deal to me. You can, though, find kink-friendly professionals. There’s a website dedicated to listing them—lawyers, doctors, therapists, all sorts—but I don’t have the link on hand.

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I'll post it when I find it but there are actually therapists who specialise in BDSM/are BDSM friendly. There's a site where you can find a therapist near you :) you could do that, but I doubt you'd want to switch therapists or have two therapists. But there it is if you want it (and if anyone else wants it as well). 
Honestly, my partner and I are also 24/7 D/s and I do believe her therapist knows about it. I think she kind of just up and told her. If you tell your therapist that it's Consensual, and your therapist gets all judgemental...it may be time to get a new therapist. If they don't get judgemental then hooray! 
I understand how much it sucks to have to hide though :/ if just dropping bombs like that isn't your thing, you could also pitch the idea. Maybe ask your therapist's opinion on BDSM before telling them? 
Good luck!

Talking about BDSM with my therapist?

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