Relationships vs Friendships

Every now and then, I start wondering exactly what it is that we’re all searching to find in *one* person for a life partner.

Connection is the spice of life and many people believe that platonic relationships can exist with the opposite sex (or same sex for those that swing another direction). So when we really step back and consider the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship, what is the real difference? Why do we seek companionship, sexual intimacy, emotional support, honesty, fidelity, etc. from one person? What really is the difference? Why do we expect so much from this kind of relationship and for such a long period of our lives?

I’m married and I adore my husband to pieces. But when I see our day to day life and how routine things are in life (not boring, just routine) I wonder why we place all of our hopes and emotional needs on one person and one relationship.

Because I love him so much, I feed off his energy. I’m happy when he’s happy, I feel down when his energy is down. I feel as though not talking on a deep level makes our relationship no different than a friendship I would otherwise have with anyone else.

Conceptually, I just don’t get it.

And the inability to answer this question makes me feel so disconnected to my marriage or the purpose I would otherwise feel it provides.