Asked to be a bridesmaid, but...


Last night, a friend of mine who got engaged in feb, asked me to be a bridesmaid.

I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I am not very close with her since she started dating her now fiancée. She used to be one of my very good friends.

I've seen this friend 4 times since having my baby in October. She acted strange when I told her I was pregnant. Last night she admitted to me that 'she knew things would change when I had a baby, which is why she acted odd and hasn't seen me much'

As I said, I've been here the whole time. Whereas, I feel she is someone who has truly changed for him. I did share my feelings with her. I assured her I wanted her to be happy and I'm glad she found someone she loves, I just feel like I'm mourning the loss of my friendship.

The conversation ended with me saying I need some time to think about it. She agreed and said she had a feeling I would say no, but wanted to ask anyway.

I don't feel right about standing up. Yet, I don't feel right by saying no.

She has also done everything for the wedding already, minus the shower and bachelorette party.

Any advice?