Where is the love? ❤️

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I’m 8 weeks pregnant and just had my first ultrasound. I’ve seen women post on here about how they have their first ultrasound and they are so in love with their baby. I honestly did not have this experience. 
Don’t get me wrong, we’ve been struggling with trying to start a family for going on 3 years. I think I had almost accepted that it just wasn’t going to happen. But finally it did. We are very happy, but between worry that something will go wrong, being terrified of being a terrible parent, experiencing some symptoms of depression and tons of pregnancy symptoms that are leaving me feeling miserable most of everyday, I’m having a hard time getting excited. 
Anyone been there? Did you feel that love for your child as soon as you saw the ultrasound or did it take some time? 
I feel a little like a sociopath for even mentioning it but honestly I’m hoping I’m not alone.

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Not alone at all. I'm 6 weeks and waiting for my first ultrasound and just dknt feel as excited as I should. It's more so nerves that I feel. We struggled with trying to conceive too so I'm just worried something will go wrong. I dont want it to be too good to be true.

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Totally normal. I didn’t feel like that until I started feeling the baby move. Especially since I had awful morning sickness that made me puke 15x a day- it’s hard to get excited over something that makes you ill. 
Once your baby gets here, I’m sure your feelings will change. But it’s totally normal. However, maybe talk to your doctor about the depression. If it continues, it could lead to postpartum depression which is not something you’ll want to go through on top if lack of sleep and a crying newborn. Your doctor may be able to help you, or may find a safe medication to take during your pregnancy to help relieve that symptom. I wish the best of luck to you!

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Not alone at all! I’m 40 weeks 2 days and I still don’t have that overwhelming feeling. I’m the type of person who needs to see it to believe it so I know once she comes (hopefully on her own 😡) I will fall in love. 
It’s hard to imagine a baby in your belly regardless of all the ultrasounds you get.

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There’s so many mixed feelings that come from being a first time parent. I was so worried in the early weeks and thought finally seeing baby on the ultrasound at week 10 would be a very emotional experience. I was relieved the baby was ok but i didn’t feel a wave of positive emotions at seeing it. It was weird and i felt like I should have felt more postive about it but it takes time to process everything so I say it’s totally. Normal.

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I felt more love and connection later on. Mostly after we actually heard the heartbeat at 16 weeks and had our 20 week ultrasound to determine gender.  Then even more when I started to feel him kick and move. It’s grown for sure hitting each mile stone. I did not feel well connected or in Love early on.

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I felt a sense of happiness and relief and cried because my baby was okay and had a heart beat but they just looked like a blob! It was nice to see them okay but babies are so underdeveloped at 9 weeks that it didn't look like anything to me. My last ultrasound at 17w 3d, you could actually see the baby and watch them move. My fiancé really enjoyed watching the baby moving then because you could make things out. (I couldn't watch because it was an ER visit and I was talking to doctors)

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It's still so early. It's normal not to feel that connection now, it's even normal for some women not to feel that connection until after birth. Give it time, the bond will develop and even if you don't bond while you are pregnant you will bond when the baby is actually here. You are not a sociopath, it is still normal x

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You are not alone. Some women feel it instantly, some at the first kick, some when they see the baby for the first time and some it even takes a little longer. It’s a wild and stressful journey. Give yourself time to adjust, the love will come in time.

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