My mom is driving me crazy!

Ok so I don't want to sound unappreciative, but I also want to actually parent my own child. So I have 18mos preemie. She was born at 2lbs and is now 25lbs. My parents live with us because they are disable so I managed everything from dinners to house work.

Back to my daughter.. My mom is fixated on counting calories for her. Like this yogurt is 50cal, and that bottle of finished is 239cal, she needs 14 cheese puffs to make it 150cal. It drives me crazy because I'm just looking to have bonding time with my daughter I make sure she is stuffed with healthy foods and positive foods that make her gain weight but I'm not about to sit there and calculate everything.

The next problem is my mom tells me how my daughter likes things. For 3 weeks I got a babysitting job and she was the one I let watch my daughter. I come home again after spending the day with other babies just wanting to be with my daughter and everything I do is wrong in my mothers book. She takes her juice in this sippy cup and she doesn't eat string cheese, and she gets her bottle at 5:30 exactly. You need to blow in her food more. Again annoying and makes me feel like she is the mother to both my daughter and me.

Another problem is my husband and I aren't apparently cautious enough. I brought my daughter these very durable bracelets and my mom kept telling me make sure she doesn't bite them or make sure you remember to take them off at night. Don't forget to take off her eyeglasses before naps and sleep.

By the end of the day I'm exhausted of my mother and didn't really enjoy my day with my daughter. How can I approach this situation and not cause fights because anytime I have a problem and address it she throws the I'm not appreciating her.