They tell me to just leave her

My 3 month old got diagnosed with silent reflux last week. She doesn't puke constantly, only a few times a day. She just arches her back and cries out in pain all night long unless I am holding her up.

She still wakes twice a night to feed. I always feed her at an angle so her head is higher than her feet. Then I hold her up for the 30 minutes the doctor recommends. Her mattress is propped up on one side. She will lay down for 20 or so minutes and then start crying in pain. This isn't an attention cry or a boredom cry, it's a pain cry. I know the difference. Once I pick her up and get her settled upright on my lap, she goes straight to sleep and will stay asleep unless I lay her down again.

We had a rock and play but I gave it away because she HATED it.

The doctor suggested giving her gas drops, which I do, but they don't help. The doctor will not prescribe Zantac because she said the long term effects are starting to be known and they aren't good. She only prescribes in very extreme cases, which she said this is not.

We've seen a chiropractor and it didn't seem to help.

My husband and my mom have said to just leave her and let her cry because she is developing bad habits. But it breaks my heart to know she is in so much pain. If I can do anything to take that pain away I'm going to do it, even if it means sitting up all night in the rocking chair, holding her up so her little throat doesn't burn.

I'm getting between 30 min and 2 hours of sleep per day. The days where it is only 30 min are hard but the 2 hour days are manageable. The doctor says most babies outgrow it by 4 months so I am hoping I can keep this up for another month.