What do you think? Are we so concerned with being polite that we forget to take care of ourselves?

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This is such an important thing. Especially for women. We are typically socially bred to stifle ourselves so that we can be worn away for sake of others. I still struggle with the notion that the only one that can truly make demands on my time is myself. 
Self-care is so incredibly important and should never be a source of guilt or shame.

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I have a hard time with this as well. I have stayed up all night talking people through hard times and have deprived myself of sleep because I wanted to be a good friend. I am trying really hard to learn that "no" is a complete sentence, and that it is OK to say it when I really need time to recharge. If I'm not at my best, I can't be a good employee, wife, sister, aunt, friend, citizen. I think it's important that I remember to secure my own metaphorical oxygen mask before assisting others.

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I think there's a thin line here... and yes, I find myself often, IRL and FB, censoring myself in fear of offending others. I'm trying to kick that habit. Because I think it's important we're honest and blunt in the face of ignorance and misinformation, or else we're part of the problem. But if the other persons words/actions are harmless? There's no reason not to be polite and respectful.

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This is something I struggle with constantly. My professional training and skill set involves being a compassionate listener. I don't mind helping friends going through tough times, but I sometimes feel like my position gets takes advantage of. I liken it to being a mechanic and everyone expecting you to fix their car for free, even after recommending other competent professionals. It's sadly ended personal connections before.

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I dont usually give people interactions when i am at my lowest mood. When i am feeling really depressed and someone goes to hug me I immediately back away. I just dont seem to like that kind of interaction when in that kind of mood. Same goes with texting and phone calls.

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This article is so true. I have beaten myself up continuously over the years for not responding to someone quickly or saying 'no' to a request and often to my own detriment. I've changed since as I realized over the years so many people have used me and taken me for granted. One of the best decisions I've made is learning to take care of myself first and foremost.

What do you think? Are we so concerned with being polite that we forget to take care of ourselves?

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