This question may be dumb but if I get an answer it could really help

Okay so it's not that I dislike sex let's start there lol. Its 7 inches, I'm pretty petite, it works great. However, I need clitoral stimulation to make it feel good. At least, good enough that I can say it was a good session. However, my clitoris is not very sensitive. I have friends who have those little bullet vibes that work wonders. Meanwhile, those do almost nothing for me. I need strong stimulation to be able to orgasm. Only problem is, I'm not sure how to get that WHILE having sex. Would a big wand get in the way? I'm not sure. Can anybody help?