Discussing a 4th while still pregnant? Trying for opposite gender.

Question

Background:
I’m 37 yrs old, currently 5 months pregnant with twin girls. My husband is 39. We have a 5 year old little girl.
To be honest , my husband and I have experienced huge gender disappointment ever since we found out the twins were both girls. (Please don’t judge, I’ve read others feel the same way for a bit). I know these feelings will pass & we’re going to love them regardless ❤️. We believe they are huge blessings to our family. 
The reason being for gender disappointment, is we feel like we’re both getting older & it’s too late to try for a 4th?! 😌 or is it?
However, we just casually brought up trying for 4th right away & even possibly trying Gender Determination. I’m having so many mixed feelings. Plus I’m caring these beautiful twins & I just want to be happy. I don’t want them to feel any bad feelings.

Answer

Hi! I think it’s fine to feel like that! I really wanted girls and got two, I would have been bummed to get two boys!
Idk if you did fertility treatments, I did, and finally got my twins with IVF, which would be your route if you want for sure a boy.
IVF it’s no joke and it takes a huge toll emotionally but also physically. I gained a ton of weight and all the hormones covered my whole body in cellulite. Be very sure and investigate about it because as I said, it’s not a walk in the park.
Regarding your age, I don’t think you’re too old because if you do IVF you and the embryo will be super screened.

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I don’t think you’re too old, but I think being pregnant and having a baby shortly after having twins would be tough. If you opt for the natural route and get another girl, would you be ok with that? It’s a hard decision, but I hope you can work out what’s best for your family.

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Your body needs at least 18 months to heal and restore its nutrients after having twins. Your ab muscles will be obliterated and need lots of time to heal. If you have a c section, that will add a lot more healing time. You will put a potential 4th baby at risk if you get pregnant right after birth. That’s not fair to the baby. And what if it’s another girl? 
Also, let’s be real...after you have these twins, you guys will be so overloaded with indescribable exhaustion like no other. I’m sure a 4th child will be the last thing you need. It’s not fair to the twins or a new baby. 
I admit, I had gender disappointment for a little bit after we found out we were having fraternal twin girls. However, after two years postpartum, I honestly feel that twin girls are so amazing, and I’m relieved that both turned out to be girls.

Discussing a 4th while still pregnant? Trying for opposite gender.

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