I feel like I have no help.

I am a stay at home mom and my husband works hard to keep it that way and I very much appreciate that. But when hes home he is in no way helpful. I dont mean with housework cuz that doesnt bother me I mean with our son. He will play with him and do fun things with him but any of the hard parenting stuff is up to me alone. Examples at night sometimes it takes my son an hour or longer to go to bed. My husband comes in the room with us but usually dozes off and sleeps thru my son being wild and doing all he can to stay awake. If my husband is tired I dont really mind him sleeping but him coming in acting like he is going to help then not is so frusterating. I also read all the parenting books which I dont expect him to but I make all the decisions about discipline, eating habits ect. It's like he has no thoughts of his own and anytime something like that comes up when hes with our son he asks me or has me take care of it.

Also the other day he took my son for almost 3 hours right thru lunchtime and didnt feed him cuz my 2 year old son wouldnt tell him what he wanted to eat. So I got left with a hungry tired 2 year old.

I've talked to him multiple times and I literally feel like I just have 2 kids.

What can I do to make him see that I am exhausted and need help?

Has anyone dealt with this before? If so what did you do about it?