I can only orgasm from working out!?

Question

This sounds really weird, but I looked it up and I guess it’s normal? Almost every time I do side leg lifts with resistance bands on, I orgasm and it feels amazing. I never orgasmed during sex and didn’t even know what it felt like till I got those resistance bands. I want to orgasm like that during sex but it never happens! It’s not like my husband is doing anything wrong either he’s amazing in bed and we do a lot of BDSM kink stuff, which I love. He’s definitely big enough too. I don’t understand why I can only orgasm from this specific workout but nothing else. Ughh, if someone knows any tips for orgasming during sex please comment!

Answer

Your primary sex organ is your clitoris. Your vagina is mostly numb and without much nerve endings. This is to protect you from trauma during child birth, menstruation, infections and sex. On the other hand, your clitoris has only one job - sexual pleasure leading to orgasms. It is the most sensitive organ in the human body with over 8,000 nerve ending in just the glans (the part you can see and feel).
Your clitoris is much more than just the tip you can see and feel. It goes about 15 cm inside your body - 2 bulbs under your lips and going around your vagina, and 2 legs that go deeper inside your body. When you exercise, your muscles contract and puts pressure on these internal clitoral structures, which causes you to orgasm. Not every woman can do it, but a significant number of women can experience this. Some women can even sit in a chair and cause themselves to orgasm by just contracting the pelvic muscles over and over.
It sounds like you never learned to masturbate? You are not unlike many women, but you missed an important part of your sexual education. You have to explore and discover your own body. If you have not looked at yourself much, google “female anatomy diagram”, then take a mirror and find all these parts on your own body. You should also take a few minutes a day for a few days to touch and rub every part of your genitals to find out what feels good. You should vary the speed, firmness and the way you touch, press and stimulate. You will soon discover how you orgasm. Just be patient and do not give up.
Learning how to orgasm with a partner is not the easiest way of figuring out how your sex organs work.
Only about 25% of women will just orgasm during intercourse without doing anything special. The reason is that the other 75% do not get their clitoris stimulated enough. Researchers think it is due to the distance from the clitoris to the vaginal entrance, and the mechanics of their penis inside their vagina just does not bring the right stimulation. So do not feel bad, or think that you are alone. Far from it.
During sex, you or your husband can rub your clitoris with your fingers or a small clitoral vibrator. Or you can change the way you have sex. Tilt your pelvis and rub and grind your clitoris on him while he is inside you. This is the easiest to do when you are on top and in control. It will only feel awkward and weird the first few times. After that it becomes natural. Sex does not have to be an in/out, up/down affair. Rubbing and grinding is good for your orgasm.
Two other ways therapists will recommend when you cannot orgasm any other way are using the water from the faucet or hand shower on your clitoris, or grinding and riding a pillow.  It is never too late to reach your full orgasmic potential!

I can only orgasm from working out!?

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