Husband thought I should apply for this very compelling job in another state because I've been miserable following his career around the last couple years.

Well, I got the job. Great offer.

And now it turns out how grand idea was that he would still be able to follow his career in another state, and I can spend a few years getting my career back on track in this state, and while it would be a sacrifice in the long run neither of us would be miserable and we'd have great careers blah blah blah.

We've done distance before. But we now have a toddler and I'm pregnant.

This sounds like a horrible idea to me, even though he says it genuinely thinking he is doing right by me. He travels a ton for work, so I'm the primary caregiver... As in, I literally do 99% of everything. He told me to find a nanny in the new city and it would work out. I was livid that he ever encouraged me to do this interview because I am not sure I would have done it if I knew he wasn't ever planning on joining me. He kept encouraging me, saying "we'll make it work. I want you to be happy." Ugh.

How do I move my pregnant self to another state, start a new job, and raise a toddler (and needy dog) on my own? HOW THE HECK DO I DO THIS.

I don't think my career is worth this.