So I broke up with my BF of only 3 months. When we met I thought he could be the one. He seemed really into me and I was really into him.

But... for some reason I had a very unsettling feeling about him in my gut and I couldn’t put my finger on why. This feeling never went away. On the whole he was so loving but he’d said a few things that I saw as red flags but because of his loving nature and my tendency to be a bit cynical, I tried to ignore this “gut” feeling.

Fast forward to the end and I felt he’d become a little distance to what he had been previously. I pulled him up on it. He runs his own business and told me that September was a really hard month for him. I accepted this and moved on. However, my gut feeling was still going off like never before.

Here’s one of my big warning signs about him... he tells me that he came downstairs to find his friend hiding in his kitchen. He asked his friend why he was hiding and his friend replied “thought you might have a girl upstairs”. I asked him if his friend knew he had a GF . He responded “yeah”. So I asked why his friend would assume there was a girl upstairs. He replied with “oh he cheats on his GF all the time, so that’s probably why”. Massive warning sign for me.

To cut a long story short a week ago he’s off radar a bit. This is fine as I know he’s busy l. However he knows I feel uneasy about a few things he’s said and promises to call me later. He texts me reassuring me throughout the day and I accept this. It gets later and then he tells me he can’t call as he’s helping friends. I ask him to gimme a quick two min call as easier than texting. He says he can’t. I haven’t bombarded him all day or bitched or moaned. So now my senses are going mad! I try call him three times at this point but he doesn’t pick up.

So in the end I text and say I think it’s really unfair to treat me as a low priority. On the whole I’m pretty understanding but couldn’t see a reason for his lack of contact on this day. So... I end up finishing it over text, explaining I’m not an afterthought. He reads my messages and doesn’t respond. He doesn’t call or text at all.

Two days later still nothing. I ended up contacting his ex. We have a discussion about him and she’s very diplomatic. She tells me she isn’t best to ask as she’s quite negative, but she does say that it is hard to believe much of what he says.

Shortly after he calls three times in a row. I cancel each call and he doesn’t try again. A few days later his ex and I speak again and she tells me he would like to speak to me.

I haven’t got in contact with him as for some reason I don’t trust him and I don’t know why. The fact that he contacted me because his ex told him to wasn’t good enough reason for me and I felt showed he didn’t really care.

It’s over a week on and now I’m considering the fact that maybe I over reacted?? Or should you always follow your gut???

Honest advice if anyone has any???