Finding peace through the pain.

Kendyl • Wife • Stepmom • Auntie • Nanny • Finally a mama, after 2 MCs and 1 Molar
To start, a short overview of my experiences so far. In April of 2012 I found out I was pregnanct for the first time. At my first appointment (7 weeks) no heartbeat was detected. I returned a week later and was advised the pregnancy was not viable and I naturally miscarried a week later. In May of 2013 I found out I was expecting a second time. At my first appointment I was rushed to the hospital where I was told I was experiencing a Molar Pregnancy (http://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-complications/molar-pregnancy/). I was advised to wait 6 to 12 months to try to conceive again. My husband and I waited a year and a half and on July 1st of this year I got another BFP after our first month of trying. On August 2nd I started having my second miscarriage, my third failed pregnancy. I was devastated. 
The first day of this miscarriage was the hardest; by far the most emotionally and physically painful. As I was in my bed crying and asking why, my husband laid down next to me and grabbed my hand. He listened while I asked him why and expressed my fears of never becoming a mother and never having a family of our own. He listened and consoled me and said something to me that made it easier for me to sleep and wake up accepting our loss more. When I finished telling him that my heart was broken and I had fears about the future he told me this: "I truly believe we'll have children. I feel confident that we will have a family together, but if we don't, that's okay. You are my dream and you're enough. I will be happy because I'm with you." I realized in that moment that I feel the same way about him, he is enough too. He is enough and his daughter is enough. I want to have children with him more than I can explain, but if that doesn't work out, I know I will still have happiness. His words made me think about all of the love I have been shown over the last fews days and all the love I have in my life. Love from my husband, my mother, my sister and my closest friends and I am beyond fortunate for this. People have been there for me in exactly the way I have asked and needed them to be. From this tremendous loss I gained a peace that I desperately needed. I was reminded that although I am hurting and longing, I have so much to be grateful for. The people in my life love me as much as I love them and they have offered me support beyond my expectations. I know I am strong enough to endure, I know my marriage is strong enough to endure and I know my support system is strong enough to get me through. I wish all of the women who are experiencing loss or have in the past, peace and strength. This pain is one unlike any other, but there can be a great deal of beauty to be found within this ache. Good luck and baby dust!