I just want someone to blow my back out

Hey ladies. So I've been out of my long term relationship for almost a year now and it's been about 7 months since I've had some really good sex. The break up was a lot for me and I'm just now getting back to my normal self. I'm horny all the time and masturbating only gets you so far. I've always been a little conservative when it comes to sex and I'm really not that experienced. I need to know how do you guys find friends with benefits?? Like what do you say to a guy? Do you just go up to him and grab his dick or do you have a genuine conversation?

I don't relationship at all, I just want some head and good peen. Why is that so hard to get??? Helpppppp me!