What am I doing wrong?

I’ve read on here time and time again about how you “can’t spoil a baby” right? Over and over and over. But yet somehow I feel like my baby is “spoiled” or at least that’s what EVERYONE tells me. She’s 8 months old and she’s very “needy” if you will. I feel like there’s no winning here. If you’re too attentive to your baby and pick them up every time they cry, you’re spoiling them...if you let them cry, you’re a bad mom. I don’t know what to do. I’m so tired of people commenting on how needy my daughter is and how I need to change what I’m doing. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?? I tend to her when she cries....now she wants held all the time and doesn’t let me out of her sight. If I let her cry, I feel like a shitty mom. I’m a first time mom and I really don’t what what to do, what to change or what I’m doing wrong. 😭 she also doesn’t do well being held by people she isn’t super familiar with, which brings on more comments about how I am doing something wrong by not socializing her enough.