So I’ve been seeing this guy for a little over a month now, he’s so sweet, kind and gentle but also sexy and the best I’ve ever had. He treats me like a queen and makes me O like I never have before. We had both just gotten out of relationships, mine being 7 years and his less than 1 year. The only problem is that his ex is pregnant with his child. They were over before we got together because she’s supposedly a manipulative psychopath (his words, not mine) and she had broken up with him 7 times in the last 6 months before he finally decided he couldn’t live like that anymore. We both really like each other and spend most of our free time together but decided that because of our situations that we’re not going to put a label on anything.

He’s told me before that his ex is a complete control freak and now because she no longer has power over him and their relationship she’s freaking out. I think she thought she could do and say whatever she wanted and he’d always go back to her, but he’s told me he’s completely done.

When she found out that we were hanging out she started messaging me, calling me things like a tramp and a home wrecker. But as far as I’m concerned they weren’t together when this all started so I didn’t do anything wrong. She’s coming to me looking for answers because he doesn’t feel the need to tell her his business, which I understand but when I don’t respond to her she gets all crazy and says she’s going to destroy and hurt me. She constantly rings him because she wants to know where he is and who he’s with all the time, but because they’re not together anymore he doesn’t tell her, he just says he’s busy. Whenever we’re together his phone rings and least 5 times if not more but he always just silences his phone or turns it off. She even faked contractions to get his attention and get him to go see her.

I understand that she is having his child and that he needs to be there for her when it concerns the baby, I’ve told him that, but when I get threatening messages like that from her it’s makes me feel like shit. It makes me rethink everything and wonder if this is a good idea. He tells me that this is what she wants, she wants to see him alone and unhappy and the only way to upset him is by hurting me. He says she’s all talk and that she’ll leave me alone but she never does. I had to block her on messenger last night because even though I was with him and things were great when I saw her message it made me feel horrible.

I just don’t really know what to do and any advice and opinions would be great.