Gender Disappointment?

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I always thought people on here were crazy as hell to be sad and upset when they find out the gender and it be the opposite of what they wanted. But recently we just went for ultrasound and found out it is 80% a girl. I was so heartbroken because we have a 5 year old little girl and was told it was most likely a boy the time we went previously. We had our hopes high. Dont get me wrong, I was so happy to see the baby was doing great and healthy looking as can be, but I just kind of feel sad and almost numb. I hate it because it's not fair to the baby I feel this way. I just wanted to know if anyone has ever felt this way and when will I be mostly excited again? I know I sound like a POS. I still am excited and love/want the baby unlike other people I have seen on here, I just feel confused. Any advice would be great!

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Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s ok to feel how you feel. You had built an idea in your head, and you’re allowed to be disappointed to find out that idea has changed. Remember your whole body is dedicating itself to growing that little one right now. Be kind to yourself. 
I had 2 girlfriends find out gender to avoid disappointment - one had a little boy and desperately wanted a girl as they were only having 2 kids so she felt she had to find out to “get over it” before the baby came if it was a boy. And it was. And she was disappointed at first but then came to the idea and knew her little boy would love having a brother. Now she has 2 beautiful boys. 
My other girlfriend had a boy and a girl, went for her third and final bub and was surprised to be having twins. She just wanted one to be a girl so her daughter would have a sister to be close to. It was 2 boys. She actually regretted finding out because if they had found out at birth she didn’t think she would have stressed over it so much throughout her pregnancy and instead would have just fallen in love with her babies (as she did when they were born!)
So yep - let yourself feel what you feel but rewrite your story as you go. You can’t change things. You’ll fall even more in love with the new reality I’m sure!
On a side note, another one of my friends were told through scans AND blood testing that they were having a girl 99.99% probability. Bought everything pink. Out popped a boy 😂 obviously a rarity but whatever will be will be. Good luck x

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Not going to lie was a little disappointed when my NIPT results came back for my third girl. Then I became excited, this meant I didn’t really have to buy a ton of new clothes. Just the other day I was back to feeling a little sad that I wasn’t getting my boy. However, hearing my four year old talk about her baby sister made me happy. It’s okay to have some disappointment don’t beat yourself up about it. Trust me it will pass.😊

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I was like that when i found out our second was a daughter as well. I have two girls. And u couldn't imagine my lige without the two of them. My second dd is testing as all hell but i cant get enough of her.
I am hoping this one is a boy but im also at that point where healthy babe is fine. 
Gender dissapointment sucks especially when everyone around you is having that gender. My sister just had her first baby and it was a boy. My cousin has two boys. Im the only one with all girls. It sucks but ive gotten used to it and pray that one day i will be blessed with my baby boy.

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I feel like I’m going to be a little disappointed either way with this one (my 2nd). If it’s a girl, I’ll be mourning the son I will never have. If it’s a boy, I’ll be sad my daughter will never have a sister. But we don’t have the resources to have more than 2 kids😫 so I understand lol. So many feelings!

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When you 1st went they told you it might be a boy? How many weeks was that?

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Oops I meant to reply to the original post but hit reply below

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I’m 17 weeks with a three year old boy. I only wanted two kids one boy and one girl. I did the Aztec calendar and the Chinese calendar. Every thing people write about to have a girl. Everyone told me I was having a girl based on symptoms and myths. Completely different from my son. I did a blood test and it said it was a girl. I was so excited. However when I got my ultrasound it was a boy. It clearly looks like a boy. I was devastated. I can’t even think of a boy name. I think because I already had the thought in my head it would be a girl I couldn’t get past it. I’ve had two dreams that I miscarried a boy. As time has passed I have accepted that it’s best for my son to have a brother. I guess in my mind I hear that a daughter will always take care of their mother and a son will marry their wife’s family. I just pray how it is healthy.

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I totally get this.  I have two daughters adopted through foster care and my boyfriend has a son so we were hoping boy to make it even but it's a girl. I'm excited since it's my first, kinda, but we thought it would be a boy since I'm measuring kinda big and my gut thought boy. It's ok to feel this way, I know we all love our babies no matter what.

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Thank you to everyone for the encouraging words! I hope you are all right. You guys are sweet and awesome! 💗💗💗

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