Feeling defeated

I miscarried last November and just found out I’m pregnant again this weekend. I called the OB office and talked with a nurse and they are not wanting me to come in before 9 weeks or feel the need to check my HCG levels.... like I’m scared my only pregnancy ended in miscarriage I understand not coming in early for an ultrasound because you can’t see much but come on not even a week early? I just feel like they could care less and this is from Mayo Clinic a world renowned hospital 😢 anyone else go through anything like this with your rainbow 🌈 baby? Trying to stay positive