Should I be mad ?

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Hello ladies im feeling pretty sad and really ugly :( i was randomly going thru my hubby's phone (something I never do) & I found alooooot of site of porn, & him looking up "sexy porn stars, naked women" while he's at work & more on google... I feel so hurt and really ugly now Idk if I should be mad or what :"( i love him so much but now I just feel like I don't have what will make him happy ... I don't have a great body I'm pretty skinny but have a, A cup... I'm so lost Idk how I should deal with this... I know it's not a big deal but I can't help how I feel... <\3
Advice please :(

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Is it effecting the way he treats you or effects his desire for you?  If not, I'd be less concerned; however, I hate to hear you saying you feel ugly and bad about yourself. If for no other reason, he may want to quit.

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I've been there. Like all the other women have said tell him how you feel. Some ppl say all men do this so we shouldn't feel insecure but we as women can't help it sometimes we wanna be the only ones our s/o think about.  Just tell him how you feel & hopefully you work things out. 😊

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He's probably doing it just to get off. He will never see these ladies in person and he doesn't expect you to look like them. If that's what he wanted, then that's what he would have gone after. Don't be insecure about it at all. My man does it sometimes too and it doesn't bother me at all. I'll tell if he wants them then to go find them, or he can give me $6k for a boob job...lol. He won't do that though because he's afraid that I'll get too many looks and leave him....lol Gotta love men...lol

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You should tell him how you feel about this. Most men are into porn and I think it's a guy thing. My husband watches porn and I honestly don't have a problem with it. I did feel insecure when I first found out and I told him how ugly I felt, he told me it's not what real women look like and those women have too much plastic surgery. He does it for fun and u started enjoying watching it as well coz we get lots of ideas.

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I just had this problem last week I looked at his phone and I was like wow are you serious. I to am very skinny and a cup just tiny.  I felt so ugly and I didn't know what to do and it turned into a argument .. I did approach it all wrong. And then there will be that why were u looking in my phone. So all i can say is Just try and sit down and talk about it.. Good luck.

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Just tell him...I did the same thing with my boyfriend..communication is key, you won't get anywhere if you don't attempt to talk about it and you'll bottle this up and feel even worse. But also keep in mind almost every guy does this...like its a man thing I guess? My boyfriend stopped for me (that I know of) but yeah just talk to him.

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