When my husband and I first met in May 2016, our sex life was great and constant. However his mum passed away in September 2016 and sex became a bit frustrating after then. I was the one always ‘asking’ or seducing or interested in having sex. By April 2017, I noticed it became worse, we saw ourselves only during the weekends because of work and we lived in different cities. I confronted him about it in May 2017, July 2017 and September 2017 and he had the same response: ‘you’re overthinking, im tired, I’ve put on weight, I’m attracted to you, I love you, I’ll become more proactive about it. By November 2017 we got engaged(things were still the same) and got married Sept 2018 (now living together). Now We have sex like 1-2ce in a week and only because I get frustrated as he’s literally never horny. I guess it’s more frustrating now because I see him everyday and it hurts that he sleeps next to me every night without having an urge to even touch me talk more of have sex. I’m thinking of putting sex on hold for the next two months and see how he’ll take it and if it’ll make an effect on the current situation. Any other ideas ladies, I’ve talked cried screamed and nothing seems to work.

I seriously doubt he’s depressed because this seems to be the only change. Is it possible he’s channeled the depression to his sex life? He parties, goes to work, talks with me, talks with friends like normal. I’m suspecting low testosterone also but he’s only 36.