Went away from veganism

I was vegan for 2 years and so proud. I had had my 5th child and was back to a good weight and had lots of energy. After some super traumatic events last year I got deeply depressed and started eating like crap. I have gained 30lbs and feel like shit and I want to go back to veganism but my family (hubs and kiddo) do not want to give up butter or cheese now. They want to be vegetarian only.

We have violife and tons of vegan butter alts and they are throwing down still.

Suggestions?