So shit really hit the fan! Need advise!

So I’m going to try and make this as short and sweet as possible!...

So I’ve been with my guy for 3years almost 4 he’s always been the most In love guy I’ve ever been with what I mean by that is he’s always so dedicated to me around EVERYONE! His family my family his friends my friends everyone know how much he “loves me” even coworkers of his that I’ve never met! Keep that last part in mind while in try and give the play by play...

As of last month he started to become distant and of course him being him that was ssssuuuppppeerrr noticeable I called him on it almost every day! If you look at my last post I was talking about the phone thing and if you would be concerned if your SO was using their phone taking it absolutely everywhere with them!! So the next day I believe this happened he had gone out one day after work and didn’t answer my call or text and I didn’t speak to him until 11 at night and this was a Thursday night and he gets out of work at 4 😡 ok so that it self was far from his normal behavior I had picked up his phone one day and noticed that his text messages icon he issued Android was not on his main screen like it was always on the bottom of the main screen front Page because it’s a frequently used app like with everyone that has a phone right!?!? So I called him on it and he says he didn’t even notice it which is of course completely bull! And I told him of course you did because not only was it not on the page but it was removed from any screen you can see just by turning his phone on this was put into like a hidden screen you have to pull your finger up from the bottom left corner to open then “hidden” screen anyhow of course he was still stuck to his phone like glue but he did leave it on the couch to go do something im forgetting where or what he did but he left if and I knew I had a couple minutes to see whatever it is my gut was telling me to see so I snooped mind you I’m not really a snooper but I’m telling you I had that gut feeling I looked through his texts and nothing out of the ordinary I looked through his call log and nothing then I looked at his google and on his google page it shows you a little icon that says recent activity so I clicked it and sure enough it had said he has logged into Snapchat 6 times that day and multiple times on days past!!!! .... weird thing is neither of us have Snapchat or instagram or Facebook or any other social media!! So at that point I close his phone and put it back and say nothing to him because I needed to dig still! Fast forward uuummm let’s say about 4 days or so .... we go to bed I can’t sleep for obvious reasons and he’s still being so secretive with his phone! Even though we did spend all Sunday together even went to my aunts house for dinner that night one thing I did notice is that he did go to the bathroom 2 times at my aunts house for an extended amount of time! Said he had the runs!🤨... ok back to that night in bed he’s asleep and all I can do is lay there next to Him knowing I had to get his phone! So I very gently sneak out of bed of course not waking him up and crawl from my side of the bed to his where his phone was plugged in and charging it was actually my second attempt to do this my floors upstairs are cheeky and I got scared on my first try so second one I get his phone crawl back to my side and get back into bed! I’m looking through his phone and like I said he had logged into Snapchat so that was my main focus I look at his recent activity again and see that he had logged in that morning at 801 and he was pooping at that time because he got out of bed took his phone and went to the bathroom at 757 that morning! I looked at the clock! Then that day I made breakfast took our dog for a walk and then around 1130 went upstairs to shower and get ready and there’s another 3 loggings at 1136 1142 and 1202 so of course that’s him logging in while I’m in the shower then I see 3 other log ins at 701 704 708 all the while he’s at MY AUNTS HOUSE taking a shit!!!!😡 .... so I go to his App Store and sure enough it’s the most recently downloaded app but not downloaded on his phone I checked everywhere so it’s been deleted of course just in case I find it right! Of course he would delete it! So I download the MF app and of course he uses his same info that he does for everything else! Sure enough I see this

So he’s been talking to someone names Samantha which we don’t have any mutual friend or family member on either side names Samantha so of course my heart is cracking down the middle at this point and I didn’t know what the heart meant that was to the right of her name but I googled it and it means that in Snapchat world they at #1 bestfriends on there and have been consistently chatting for at last 2 weeks! I tried to get as much info as possible but I guess Snapchat erases the messages right after they have been sent unless you save them or something like that so I click the message and there is only one message on there that I see and it’s this “Good Morning❤️” sent from her! ... so I put the phone back same way I got it! Sat there thinking what should I do I knew if I didn’t say anything at that point right then and there by waking him up I would have to wait another whole day and fester on this so I wake him up he’s startled cause he was in a deep sleep by that time and I say we need to talk he says about what I tell him you tell me what we need to talk about and he said he had no idea what I was talking about so I just say why are you on Snapchat? What’s going on with that and he has the nerve to say he’s not!!! I ask repeatedly and he’s completely denying it so I tell him to hand me his phone he at first isn’t willing to but then I tell him if you don’t then why are you so reluctant so he hands it to me I hold it not doing anything with it yet then I ask who Samantha is he says nothing! Ask a few more times and then tell him ok we’ll find out together so I act like I’m going to start looking through his phone and he tries to grab it from me at that point which I was NOT about to have I was shaking like a leaf but needed truth to this shit he was trying to pull so I show him on his App Store it was the most recent downloaded app! He looked like he saw a ghost but started to say she was just a friend I got out of him that she used to work with him and they were just friends but nothing else he was being so defensive saying did I just want him to leave and stupid shit like that and I kept telling him I wanted the truth! But it never came from him so I still had his phone he was so adamant to have it back but I was not going to let that happen I went downstairs to sleep on the couch because I need to get back into that app to write this Samantha girl and I knew he would freak I told him to be the one to write her but he wouldn’t so there I was laying on my couch writing to a girl that could potentially give me nothing but I needed answers and she was my only hope I wrote her this “ hi Samantha my name is amber and I’m bryan’s girlfriend I’m not sure if you knew he had one or not but if you could please respect the fact that he does and not talk to him anymore that would be great and I have his phone so if you could I have some questions for you please write ME back” she didn’t that whole night but come the morning this is what I got

Then she sends me this

Then this

Then this

I at this point was furious! He gets out of the bathroom from showering and I tell ask him did you fucking say this to her!?!? 😭😭😭 he has some little smirk on his face and says no I say then who the hell did it didn’t seem like words he would use but then again I have no idea who this guy is at this moment in time then she text me I ask her if they have ever hung out she said they did around 3 a few weeks ago the met up for a drink I asked her if they hooked up she said not really they did kiss but it wasn’t like a make out or even a intentional kiss she said it was like it should have never happened and it was less than a peck for course I could give a shit at this point if it was any and all of the above so at this point I just need to vent get it off my chest I don’t really know what to do I have an 11 year old daughter and was with my last BF for 5 years and it ended so fast and abruptly because of pretty much the same situation a little worse but all in all cheating and i told myself I would never bring a man into her life that I wasn’t sure would be the person I would marry and be with forever and he seemed up until this past month that he was that guy! God I’m so torn and confused! My chest literally hurts and at night all I can do is cry because I don’t know where my feelings are right now! I’m just praying that I get a sign or something and advise I don’t want to tell any of my family or friends because honestly i don’t know what I’m going to do and let’s just say I’m going to get back with him by the way I did tell him to leave but let’s say I forgive him if I did tell anyone I’m close to I know they would never be able to forgive him so I just have no idea what road to take right now 😔