i’m 20 y/o. i’m currently 6 weeks and 5 days pregnant. this is my first pregnancy and from the beginning i felt alone. when i showed my partner my pregnancy test his first reaction was “you’re not pregnant, the lines aren’t dark enough”. I took a digital test and texted it to him. he didn’t reply so like 2 hours later i texted him “did you see my text” & he said “yeah” & that was it. He says things like “how are my babies” & check on me to see if i’m taking care of myself because i’ve been struggling too. but other days he says stuff like he’s unsure if he wants it.

he has a three year old son with his ex. According to him, she had about 3/4 abortions with his kids as well. so it’s always “i’ve been through this before, i know how it goes” or when i’m telling him that’s he is being extremely distant. he says “he thinking about the situation or trying to get things done for his son”. he says he’s a man & a man doesn’t express his feelings or whatever. But i feel like i need to know. i should know.

i’m in college, about 5 hours away from him and don’t really have friends. my routine consists of class, library & work. I have extreme fatigue so it’s really hard for me to get up and get things done. I’ve been really stressed trying to manage this pregnancy & school.. i’ve been stressed. and i fainted because of dehydration and high blood pressure. i spent the night in the hospital & he said “i need to stop stressing” like he isn’t the one adding stress to me.

i have to constantly explain to him that I am not his ex and this is my first time so i need him. but it’s getting to the point where i feel like i have to beg him... i don’t like that at alll

so my question are:

1. did anyone else have their first child with someone who already kids - is this a normal feeling

2. is it normal for the guy to be distant... should i view that as him not want me or baby (because i do)

3.how can i get him to completely understand that i need him to be involved... it’s like i have to remind him at least once a week by crying or cursing him out