Help! Breaking up w my ex boyfriend

Alright ladies, how do I break up w my ex boyfriend... again?

The thing is I was with a manipulator. I knew he wasn’t right for me after 3 months & I broke up w him, but I let myself get dragged back in.

He has a super sad sob story & swore up down left right he was gonna change bc this was the kick in the butt he needed... blah blah blah. I loved him so I agreed to stay friends. We’re broken up but we still FaceTime everyday & it’s really flipping annoying listening to him make excuses for everything & go on about how the whole world is against him.

The man took a part time job so he could focus on working out & losing weight (he’s morbidly obese) and hasn’t worked out in over 2 months. His parents told him he needs to pay rent or get out & he’s acting like they’re vicious people who don’t love him. He has no future the way he’s headed now (he wants to be a personal trainer & a firefighter... at 400 lbs... w a torn ACL) & I just don’t want to be a part of that, but I still have love for him & hate the thought of hurting him.

We were only together for 3 months but he still tells me he loves me on the daily & acts like we’re gonna get married one day DESPITE THE BREAK UP. I’ve told him to knock it off, but it doesn’t make a difference. Ik it’s another manipulation tactic to make me feel guilty & stick around, but it still makes me feel some sort of way!!!

Sorry for the long, indignant justification 😅 but honestly, how do I go about this? & so close to Christmas too 🤦🏼‍♀️ I really can’t make it to the new year ya’ll. I’m beyond fed up.

For the record I didn’t hint at or ask him to lose the weight, that was something he said he wanted for himself.